Anonymous asked: got any tips for a girl who's feeling blah/emotionless lately? have you ever been in a funk? you seem so content, how do you stay happy?

hello lovely.

it’s funny you ask, i actually am VERY prone to being in a funk/feeling listless/getting deeply sad out of nowhere, for no apparent reason (well there usually is a reason, but it could simply be a memory, or a sad story that affects my overall mood..). i think i have too much empathy. but that is neither here nor there

my tips are to focus on yourself. figure out what exactly is bringing you down (are you lonely? is it school? are your friends bringing you down? etc) and try to alleviate the issue. i try to look at every day as a clean slate. i decide that the day is going to be a good one, and revel in the small moments of happiness that occur during the day. appreciating the little things is a great way to lift your attitude when you’re feeling down. working out is a great way to boost endorphins and feel better about yourself as well.

when i’m really in a funk i tend to spend money that i shouldn’t. retail therapy.. but i don’t advise doing that. when i’m really upset i generally go to my mother’s house and play with the dog and play guitar and write about how shitty i feel. it’s very therapeutic. i think being able to vent exactly how you’re feeling via music or writing or art or any kind of creative outlet is an excellent way to cope.

i guess this is pretty general, but i feel like when i’m feeling down and someone is trying to tell me how to be happy i usually feel like kicking them in the face with a sharp shoe on.. i don’t want you to feel that way though. and if you feel like you would like some more in depth tips feel free to ask, i seem to have a lot to say.

i’m sorry you’re down and i hope you feel better soon. and like i always say.. the times are hard in the winter, but when the weather gets warmer, they’ll get easier.

xx