on intimacy.

things i’ve learned from the internet: when to stop.

i.e. if you’re in a relationship don’t spew your feelings all over the internet in the heat of the moment because firstly, it is immature; secondly, it is THE INTERNET AND ANYTHING YOU POST CAN AND MAY BE USED AGAINST YOU; thirdly, it makes you look bitter and crazy and i guarantee no one wants to be with a crazy person who spews their feelings all over all of their social networks (or even just one..)

i could probably go on about this for a while. but i guess the moral of the story is to please keep the intimate details of your relationship/s just as they are. INTIMATE DETAILS. aka no one should know them but you and the person you are intimate with.

aka, why do you have so many feelings… and why are they ALL over the internet?

@1 year ago with 4 notes
#also this isn't relevant to my life just an observation i'm making based off of reading some crazy lady's rants all over my fb and tumblr... #rant #relationship advice #advice #relationship #love #intimacy #crazy bitches 

Anonymous asked: It seems you are so young but are lucky enough to be in a faithful relationship. What do you think are the keys to obtaining that and keeping it? I guess it helps that you're beautiful. It just a hard out there for the single gal.

I do feel extremely lucky to be in such a happy, healthy relationship. Especially at such a young age. I think the keys to it are honesty, trust, laughter, consideration and love. And lots of great bedroom/livingroom/wherever time.

We go out of our ways to do random nice things for each other. I think the give and take of our relationship is very equal, so no one feels taken advantage of. Being able to talk about problems without getting catty or going silent is also a big factor. Being understanding and thinking outside of your own personal wants and needs.. being able to understand that maybe your partner has had a bad day and just needs to play video games all night when maybe you want to go out dancing or something, those kinds of things are important. I still delight in him, and look forward to seeing him every time I can.

I think it depends for every person’s relationship what things are important and what are not. But I think bringing out the best in the person you are with, and if they bring out the best in you, those are the things that really matter in a good relationship.

And thank you, I never was a confident person until fairly recently. I never thought of myself as beautiful… one of my friends once told me, “you’re not beautiful, but you have an amazing sex appeal” (I don’t know if he realized at the time how awfully hurtful that was to hear that) and it totally crushed me. But I’m sure you are gorgeous, whoever you are, inside and out. Beauty is objective. And there is someone (or several someones) out there for whom you will be the most beautiful creature they have ever laid eyes on.

Also, the best relationships happen when you aren’t looking for a relationship. So thrive in being single, savor every moment of it, and have fun! You’ll find the perfect someone when you least expect it.

@1 year ago with 3 notes
#relationship advice #love 

on overpublicizing your relationship.

In this day and age our lives have been over-publicized through medians like Facebook, Myspace, blogs, instagram, and of course Twitter. Being addicted to text messaging means we hardly ever feel the need to pick up the phone and call each other. Since social networking has become so influential, whatever your career is, be it music, fashion, acting, etc, you are now forced into exposing yourself to your peers to solidify your long-term success and popularity (albums don’t sell themselves). Holding onto the little privacy we do retain, we have to remain in control of the small details we can. One of the most important aspects that we are able to keep private are our relationships. It’s beyond tasteless when relationships are over publicized (Hi Kim!!!) and begs to ask the question, how real are these relationships?

If you have ever been in a relationship then you know the most important thing is to nurture and protect it. Its not a surprise that when we accomplish something, and post a photo or status to show our peers that we are happy, get psyched over the pricey shoes or outfit we allowed ourselves to buy, and so on; we are also opening the door to all those who want to see us fail. When you post things like that it’s easy for people to make assumptions and judge you on your character, your depth, and your personality. How much value does a relationship have when its aired out for all to see? A relationship is like a baby; you must care for the baby, protect, and cherish the baby in order for it to grow healthy and strong. By no means should you exploit the baby like some crazy pageant mom.

Constantly flaunting your love like a new pair of Louboutins or an expensive purse inevitably cheapens your bond. Are you posting that “I love you” on your man’s Facebook wall because you are so in love, or because you want everyone to see how tight you are? Are you trying to show how cute you guys are by posting that photo of you making out on the train, or are you trying to lay claim to him?

If the best things in life are free, and they are the best because they are yours and only yours to place a value on, then wouldn’t exploiting them diminish their value completely?

@1 year ago with 22 notes
#advice #love #relationship advice #relationships #this doesn't apply to everyone #inspired by elaine 
on intimacy.

things i’ve learned from the internet: when to stop.

i.e. if you’re in a relationship don’t spew your feelings all over the internet in the heat of the moment because firstly, it is immature; secondly, it is THE INTERNET AND ANYTHING YOU POST CAN AND MAY BE USED AGAINST YOU; thirdly, it makes you look bitter and crazy and i guarantee no one wants to be with a crazy person who spews their feelings all over all of their social networks (or even just one..)

i could probably go on about this for a while. but i guess the moral of the story is to please keep the intimate details of your relationship/s just as they are. INTIMATE DETAILS. aka no one should know them but you and the person you are intimate with.

aka, why do you have so many feelings… and why are they ALL over the internet?

1 year ago
#also this isn't relevant to my life just an observation i'm making based off of reading some crazy lady's rants all over my fb and tumblr... #rant #relationship advice #advice #relationship #love #intimacy #crazy bitches 
on overpublicizing your relationship.

In this day and age our lives have been over-publicized through medians like Facebook, Myspace, blogs, instagram, and of course Twitter. Being addicted to text messaging means we hardly ever feel the need to pick up the phone and call each other. Since social networking has become so influential, whatever your career is, be it music, fashion, acting, etc, you are now forced into exposing yourself to your peers to solidify your long-term success and popularity (albums don’t sell themselves). Holding onto the little privacy we do retain, we have to remain in control of the small details we can. One of the most important aspects that we are able to keep private are our relationships. It’s beyond tasteless when relationships are over publicized (Hi Kim!!!) and begs to ask the question, how real are these relationships?

If you have ever been in a relationship then you know the most important thing is to nurture and protect it. Its not a surprise that when we accomplish something, and post a photo or status to show our peers that we are happy, get psyched over the pricey shoes or outfit we allowed ourselves to buy, and so on; we are also opening the door to all those who want to see us fail. When you post things like that it’s easy for people to make assumptions and judge you on your character, your depth, and your personality. How much value does a relationship have when its aired out for all to see? A relationship is like a baby; you must care for the baby, protect, and cherish the baby in order for it to grow healthy and strong. By no means should you exploit the baby like some crazy pageant mom.

Constantly flaunting your love like a new pair of Louboutins or an expensive purse inevitably cheapens your bond. Are you posting that “I love you” on your man’s Facebook wall because you are so in love, or because you want everyone to see how tight you are? Are you trying to show how cute you guys are by posting that photo of you making out on the train, or are you trying to lay claim to him?

If the best things in life are free, and they are the best because they are yours and only yours to place a value on, then wouldn’t exploiting them diminish their value completely?

1 year ago
#advice #love #relationship advice #relationships #this doesn't apply to everyone #inspired by elaine 

Anonymous asked: It seems you are so young but are lucky enough to be in a faithful relationship. What do you think are the keys to obtaining that and keeping it? I guess it helps that you're beautiful. It just a hard out there for the single gal.

I do feel extremely lucky to be in such a happy, healthy relationship. Especially at such a young age. I think the keys to it are honesty, trust, laughter, consideration and love. And lots of great bedroom/livingroom/wherever time.

We go out of our ways to do random nice things for each other. I think the give and take of our relationship is very equal, so no one feels taken advantage of. Being able to talk about problems without getting catty or going silent is also a big factor. Being understanding and thinking outside of your own personal wants and needs.. being able to understand that maybe your partner has had a bad day and just needs to play video games all night when maybe you want to go out dancing or something, those kinds of things are important. I still delight in him, and look forward to seeing him every time I can.

I think it depends for every person’s relationship what things are important and what are not. But I think bringing out the best in the person you are with, and if they bring out the best in you, those are the things that really matter in a good relationship.

And thank you, I never was a confident person until fairly recently. I never thought of myself as beautiful… one of my friends once told me, “you’re not beautiful, but you have an amazing sex appeal” (I don’t know if he realized at the time how awfully hurtful that was to hear that) and it totally crushed me. But I’m sure you are gorgeous, whoever you are, inside and out. Beauty is objective. And there is someone (or several someones) out there for whom you will be the most beautiful creature they have ever laid eyes on.

Also, the best relationships happen when you aren’t looking for a relationship. So thrive in being single, savor every moment of it, and have fun! You’ll find the perfect someone when you least expect it.

1 year ago
#relationship advice #love